Our original plan was to have a fairytale theme.  But along the way, it didn’t seem too “us” to have a 100% fairytale theme.  For instance, I do not want frog decorations no matter how handsome the frog prince turned out to be in the story.  And most certainly, we do not want “fairytale-movie-soundtracks-only” for our music on reception night.

We do not want to force castle silhouettes, pumpkin carriage card holders, frog prince cake toppers, fairy wings on flower girls, glass slippers on me, etc. just to follow the theme.  And though scroll invitations are very fairytale-ish, we do not want them because (a) they’re awkward to keep as you cannot just insert them in between scrapbook pages, and (b) they require extra postage than the regular because they have to be boxed.

Next, we also love Lord of the Rings.  I have read the books in my teens, way before the movies came out, so it’s a little more special to me.  We also like the Narnian stories, certain sports, artsy stuff, etc.  I love those fairytale movies in the recent decades, such as Princess Bride, Ella Enchanted, Ever After, etc.  However, it might seem confusing and crazy to combine all these themes together…. and, as many people in the fussy wedding world love to describe it, tacky.

But we do not want to be confusing.  We just want to be whimsical a bit, enjoy ourselves, and share our personalities and likes with our guests. Because of these, we have thought of putting a little bit of this and that and now our theme is no longer just fairytale.  It has not changed into LOTR, or Narnia.  It has finally become “us”… the whole little-bit-of-this-and-that has become a definition of our personalities and our interests. Yes, “us” is our theme!

I have learned that it is important that we shouldn’t get too carried away by themes and firmly enforce the theme, like a bridezilla and a groomzilla.  Why, is it the theme’s wedding day? Is the theme spending for all the expenses? Is it important for the theme to be happy? Of course not.  Therefore, if it does not really make us happy, I conclude that we should not become slaves to the theme, but that we lead and let the theme adjust to us, instead of the other way around.